(VI) The Fable of Give Up: Bees and Flowers
The rose withered, and the bee still sucked desperately because it had sucked sweetness from this flower before. But now on this flower, the bees are sucking poison juice.
Bees know this because the toxic juice is bitter and tasted so different from the previous one. So the bee was so angry that it took a sip and raised its head to complain to the whole world, why did the taste change? !
Finally one day, for some reason, the bee vibrated its wings and flew a little higher. At this time, it found that flowers were everywhere around the withered roses.
Psychological comments
This is a fable about love, and it is the real feeling of a young Chinese teacher.
For a while, she broke up in love and was in great pain. She always wanted to ask me to chat, hoping that my psychology knowledge would help her. We kept making appointments, but almost two months passed, and we couldn't happen to get together.
The last time she asked her, she said, "Thank you! No, I figured it out."
It turned out that she had just returned from Jiuzhaigou. The pain of a broken heart is still entangling her, making her look dazed and unable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Unintentionally, she noticed a little bee collecting honey on a flower. At that moment, a sentence appeared in her mind like lightning and thunder: "On the withered flowers, bees can only suck poison juice."
Of course, the little bees in nature will not do this. Only humans are so stupid. The bees in her words certainly refer to themselves. At this moment, she suddenly realized the principle of giving up. In the past, she wanted me to help her get out, but her wings actually grew on her, and she could fly as soon as she wanted.
Give up is not easy, and giving up in love is especially painful. Because love is a replication of our parent-child relationship when we were young. Young children, no matter from any aspect, cannot do without their parents. If mom and dad completely deny him, it means death to him, which is the ultimate hurt and fear. We have more or less experienced the pain and fear of being denied by our parents, so when love, a replica of the parent-child relationship, once again, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, there is a huge difference between love and parent-child relationship: when we were young, we were powerless and our parents had the final say in everything; but now that we have grown up, we have the strength to choose our own destiny. It can be said that when we were childhood, we were little bees without wings, but now, we have a pair of powerful wings.
But when we fall deeply into love, we will return to our childhood and we will forget that we have wings to fly. Once we understand this ourselves, love will no longer be an automatic copy of the parent-child relationship, our love will gain freedom and the power to give up.
Remember: Love is a matter for two people, a matter for two completely equal and independent people. You can work hard, but it doesn’t mean that if you work hard, you will definitely be effective, because you can’t control another person.
So, no matter how much you care about love, if another person is determined to leave you, please respect his choice.
And, remember that you are no longer childhood, you can only be left torture in pain. You are already adult, you have powerful wings, and you can completely fly out a relationship that has become a poison.
Hiding at a certain time, missing the palm lines of a period of time; hiding at a certain place, missing someone who stands on the way of coming and going, and makes me care about.
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