(7) Intimate Fable: The Unique Rose
The little prince has a small planet, and a beautiful rose suddenly bloomed on the planet. In the past, there were only some nameless little flowers on this planet. The little prince had never seen such a beautiful flower. He fell in love with this rose and carefully cared for her.
During those days, he thought that this was the only flower in the world, only on his planet, and no other place exists.
However, when he came to Earth, he found that there were 5,000 exactly the same flowers in just one garden. Only then did he realize that all he had was an ordinary flower.
At the beginning, this discovery made the little prince very sad. But in the end, the little prince understood that although there were countless roses in the world, the one on his planet was still unique, because he had watered the rose, covered her with a flower cover, protected it with a screen, and in addition to the caterpillars on her body, he also listened to her resentment and self-proclaim, and listened to her silence... In a word, he tamed her, she also tamed him, she was his unique rose.
"It is because you spend time on your roses that your roses become so important." A fox tamed by the little prince said to him.
Psychological comments
This is a famous fable in the French classic "The Little Prince". I have read it dozens of times, but I still didn't understand this until 2005.
Facing 5,000 roses, the little prince said, "You are beautiful, but you are empty, and no one can die for you."
Only when love is poured into it can intimate relationships make sense. However, now we are becoming more and more popular with empty "intimate relationships", the most typical one-night stands that are flooded with the Internet.
We are in a hurry to have it. It seems that every time you have one more rose, your life value will be even more valuable. In the Internet age, having dozens of lovers is no longer a rare thing. But none of these promiscuous people I know is not empty. They don't enjoy relationships, they just enjoy conquest.
"The stronger the desire to conquer, the less interested the intimacy of the relationship." Rong Weiling, a counselor at Guangzhou Baiyun Psychological Hospital, said, "Before they have, they will try their best to narrow the relationship. But once they have it, they will quickly lose interest in this intimate relationship. The stronger the desire to conquer, the faster the loss."
For such people, a rose garden is more attractive than a unique rose.
However, the beauty of the relationship depends on the level of commitment and tame of the two. When both of you naturally invest and are tamed, your relationship will become a nourishment for life, making a person's life more fulfilling and better.
But no matter how intimate it is. The little prince is still the little prince, the rose is still the rose, and they are still two individuals. If the rose does not allow the little prince to travel, or if the little prince does not carry the rose with him when traveling, the two must be stuck together, and the relationship will no longer be a enjoyment, but will become a burden.
Remember: A relationship that is both intimate and independent of each other is better than a thousand general relationships. Such a relationship will save us from hopeless loneliness and is the most important redemption in our lives.
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